Parenting – if you can do that, you can mastermind.
Some of you may know that I have my fourth exchange student living with us right now. I’ve decided that there are some interesting similarities between parenting somebody else’s child living with you and masterminding. Now, that may seem like a really weird correlation but read on…
We’ve had four exchange students and so I know that one of the tough things about being the parent of an exchange student is that real life sets in after the “getting to know each other phase” and it’s difficult to parent someone else’s child. As a parent sometimes there are “discipline” types of things that occur. Maybe they’re not emptying the dishwasher when you’ve asked them to, or they’re not getting their homework done and teachers are emailing, or things of that nature. There are also a lot of great things, just like with your own children, like when they participate in school sports you go and cheer them on. Or you attend their school play. You want to support them, and be parents to them, as if they were your own child. Yet there’s this little part that’s detached because this kid doesn’t really belong to you and it’s also temporary. At some point you hug goodbye at an airport and return home to their empty room.
That’s where I see an interesting connection to Mastermind groups. When you’re involved in a mastermind group you want to talk about what’s going on in your organization and get feedback from the other members, and sometimes you have to remind yourself that these members don’t really have buy-in to your company, except that they care about your success the same way that you care about their success in their own companies.
Like parenting someone else’s child their success is your own success. If your fellow Mastermind group members do well in their businesses; they grow their businesses and achieve their goals, then when they succeed you also succeed. Because you had a connection and involvement in what happened to their business because you were there to give advice, brainstorm, and support them. In our High Stakes Mastermind Groups, we call it taking the “Silo out of Solo”.
Being in a mastermind group is a responsibility you sign on to – to be a support mechanism for others. And the payoff is really huge. Just like when you see your own kid walk across that stage and carry away their diploma, there’s a great deal of pride in seeing the success of your fellow Mastermind group members. And the cool thing is they feel pride when you succeed too. And another special feeling, love.
So yeah, Masterminding is a little bit like parenting someone else’s kid.