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The Price You Pay for Procrastination

Cutting Off Your Nose to Spite Your Face

The Price You Pay

After wracking my brain over and over for just the right way to start this blog I came to terms with the fact that I had a mental roadblock about procrastination. I was procrastinating.  Ironic, right?  After all this is a blog about the price we pay for procrastination.  So here we go –

The great news is that I’ve been getting a lot of attention and inquiries into Mastermind group membership. The interesting part is that several of the people have said that they need to wait until after the summer. But how much is at stake and what price do they pay for not joining when opportunity is available?

First of all, the longer you procrastinate with anything the more you prevent yourself from meeting your goals. When well-meaning people want to get things accomplished before starting membership in a mastermind group, it’s the participation itself that’s going to get their goals accomplished.  So they defeat the purpose! The reality is that you are far less likely to meet your goals because you procrastinated and no one held you accountable.

Having goals and tasks in your Mastermind group isn’t any different from having goals and tasks already for your business.  Except they are clarified, specific, on-target and purposeful.  Not time-consuming fluff.  They are  goals and tasks that your Mastermind group is helping you be accountable for completing.  So time is really not the issue because you will be far more efficient in the time that you spend on getting your goals and tasks accomplished.

All the work that you’ll do is the work that you need to do to grow your business. It’s the work you would be doing anyway just better faster and stronger, more meaningful and more goal-oriented. You will be working on your business not just in it.

Whether it’s a big project you’re working on, like writing a book or landing a defined number of clients, your goal is far more likely to be achieved with the help of the Mastermind group. The power of the group pulls you out of the depths of procrastination and is the best way to move you from mental road-block to action.

So why wait?

Secondly, when you allow yourself to procrastinate it tends to have a rollover effect. You put something off for one day and then becomes easier to put it off for a week. Before you know it you start procrastinating for two weeks and then a month, and it just rolls on from there.

Holding yourself accountable to your goals – and being held accountable by others is a surefire way to make sure that you don’t procrastinate.

Being in a Mastermind group, a good one that is, is a guarantee that the little slip-ups don’t become bigger. It’s your best bet to make sure that you don’t allow yourself to accept the little things that get by and begin to ignore and excuse repeated stalling.

Your Mastermind group members won’t let you. The same is true for your participation in the Mastermind group for them.  They depend on you to make sure that they are held accountable to meeting their goals as well.   It’s a win-win for everybody.

The third way that you pay the price for procrastination is it reflects poorly on you.  If you allow yourself a reputation as somebody who just lets things slip and you keep finding excuses, “Well maybe I’ll just call after lunch” and in the afternoon you think, “Well maybe it’s too late in the day and I’ll call tomorrow morning.” But tomorrow morning you think, “Oh they’re probably just too busy.”  Pretty soon you’ve developed a reputation for being somebody that people won’t want to work with because they can’t trust you to follow through.

My least favorite excuse from people who take overly and unreasonably-long to follow through (or never at all) is “I’m just so busy!”  We’re all busy.  Saying you’re too busy implies that you think no one else is, and that your lack of follow-through won’t adversely affect someone else.  It’s as if you assume they aren’t equally busy.

Remember your Mastermind group is shopping you just as much as you’re shopping them. You could be turned you away for not being dependable. Your group probably wants to keep the space open for somebody who they know they can count on.

In this day of business competition you can’t afford to have a reputation at someone who does not follow through.

Cutting Off Your Nose to Spite Your Face

According to The Grammarist, the idiom to “cut off your nose to spite your face” means you shouldn’t do something out of spite or revenge that will end up causing more harm to you than to the person with which you are angry. In other words, do not let your overreaction lead to self-harm.

I’ve also heard the figure of speech in much “tamer” situations; just causing yourself more harm than good for silly, selfish or even egotistical reasons.

Being too busy hoping to meet your goals, to actually meet your goals in a Mastermind is one of them.  The best way to get beyond procrastination is don’t procrastinate. Stop paying the price. No matter what your nose looks like.

 

Why Entrepreneurs and Solopreneurs Should Belong to a Group

Belonging to a group gives a real sense of well…belonging.

Do you wish to excel as an entrepreneur or a solopreneur? I bet you do, well, in that case, you need to digest every detail of this piece. You must have heard of the popular proverb that says “two heads are better than one.” Well, quiz any successful man or woman who has excelled in one endeavor or the other and he or she will tell you the proverb is very true. Little wonder then, that goal oriented individuals in particular and humans, in general, tend to form or belong to a group of people who are like-minded to help them achieve their goals.

Humans have always possessed a sense of belonging, be it in schools (where students who aim to excel academically form study groups), in offices among colleagues or even in the larger society where we have different social groups such as various dance groups, supporters club of a soccer team, etc.

And there have been several instances where individuals attribute their academic success, business growth or source of happiness to being a part of a group. This, therefore, underlines the fact that, it is very important for every individual to belong to a group. However, it is important to note at this point that,  the fact everyone should belong to a group doesn’t mean an individual should join a negative group such as a gang or a cult.

In case you’re wondering what group you should belong to as an entrepreneur or a solopreneur. Then, you should be looking forward to finding and joining a Mastermind Group. This is the point where I expect you to be engrossed with this article to enable you discover more about Mastermind Groups and how they can help your business to grow.

According to Napoleon Hill, author of the timeless self-help book, Think and Grow Rich (1937) “ a Mastermind Group is the coordination of knowledge and effort of two or more people, who work toward a definite purpose, in the spirit of harmony”. In other words, when a set of people (usually from different industries) comes together to form a group with the specific purpose of achieving common goals and success, such groups are known as Mastermind Groups.

With that said, let’s now take a look at the benefits

  1. Support:

You are surrounded in a community with people of like minds. They help you in achieving your goals and offering support to you. As the founder of High Stakes Mastermind Groups, I’ve realized I find it particularly exciting to help others achieve their set goals. Support is never in short supply in Mastermind groups in general and in High Stakes Mastermind Groups in particular, as members of the group who you become friends with automatically are there to offer support to you during meetings.

  1. Accountability

A Mastermind group allows the opportunity to regularly know how others are doing which helps you to remain focused on achieving your goals.

When one member of the group fills the others in on a challenge he/she is experiencing, the other members of the group put heads together to proffer solutions that can help the challenged member over his/her challenge.

  1. Resources

The fact that each member of the group specializes in different fields or industries provide you with the opportunity of receiving powerful tips on how to excel as an entrepreneur or solopreneur.

So, if your desire is to have yourself surrounded, encouraged and inspired by great minds or individuals who have succeeded and know what it takes to succeed as an entrepreneur in different industries. Then, you should belong to a mastermind group, and there is no better group than High Stakes Mastermind Groups to serve this purpose. For information on how to be a member visit http://www.StephanieAngelo.com/ and you can be sure to have fun growing your business and masterminding.

 

 

 

 

 

Master Mind Reader – What’s the Real Magic Behind Masterminds?

Can You Read My Mind?

Here’s a little personal information, mind you. My husband and I use a laundry basket, which is in our closet, but he also has a large laundry bag that he hangs behind the closet door. In it he puts his extra dirty, grimy, clothes that we don’t want mixed with our better clothing in the laundry basket.

Last Saturday after I started the extra dirty laundry from his bag, he got upset with me because I had “forgotten” a pair of his socks and some shorts. “Where were they?” I asked him.  “They were in my cabinet.” I asked, “How was I supposed to know they were in there?”  He said, “I always have my last things from the day before in the cabinet and I put them in the bag on Saturday morning.”

Well, this was news to me. I asked him, “I have I ever seen you do that?” knowing perfectly well the answer was ‘no’.  He said, “I don’t know.” I asked, “How was I supposed to know that you do that then?”  His answer, “Well I do it every weekend.”  “Do you know what I use to separate my eyelashes every morning after I put on mascara?”   “No, how would I know? I’m not clairvoyant.”

“Well, I said, “I do it every day.”  I know perfectly well he’s never seen me do it.

So here we have a problem of somebody expecting another person to have extrasensory perception (ESP).  I don’t have it.  I facilitate Mastermind Groups – I am not a master at reading minds.

The same is true of your Mastermind members. They aren’t Fortune-Tellers. You have to explain what your goals are and what you’re trying to achieve. Only after you are open and verbal about it can your fellow Mastermind group members actually help you. If a member doesn’t have ability to speak, then a written/printed form is used.  In either case, your fellow Mastermind Group members can’t read your mind. They don’t know what you need. Only if you are open and honest and willing to have a discussion help is there to be had.

It’s really up to you how good of a Mastermind Group participant you are. The group is not there to solve all your problems. The group isn’t there to do the work for you. Studies have shown that people who are in Mastermind Groups and put as much into the group as they expect to get out of it are 15% more likely to accomplish their goals than people who are not in a mastermind group.

Goals have a way of falling apart when you don’t have someone to hold you accountable. When nobody is looking, you may take it easier on yourself. Nobody is watching, you think, so if you fail, it’s not a big deal.

Mastermind groups are like having your own Board of Directors. Except you’re not obligated to do what they tell you – they exist for you. That’s the truly cool part. It’s not just having one accountability partner, but many. They offer you professional relationships where the members support, empower and hold each other accountable for their actions. That is the way that members help each other to achieve their specific goals by coming up with thoughtful, useful and timely information that will add value to the lives and careers of group members.

As a member, you’re being backed by and collaborating with some of the strongest, smartest and best thinkers and leaders out there – the people in some of the top leader and executive roles available. Not only are they helping you by feeding your mind with positive energy and fuel to reach your goals, but you’re helping them, as well.  Some people think, “I have nothing to contribute.  These people are way more accomplished than I am”. Well, allow me to stop you right there.  Everyone has something of value to give, over and over again.  We’ll even empower you to contribute- because it’s the cornerstone of your own accountability. Through accountability we help you master your goals. That’s where the real magic is.

What’s your opinion? What do you think about what I’ve recommended above?
Since I’m not a master mind reader you will have to tell me in the comments below!

Oh, and about those eyelashes – I use a little eyelash comb.

 

Naked and Unafraid- The Benefits of Being Vulnerable in Your Mastermind Group

Masterminders sharing what really happens in their work.

You joined, or are thinking of joining, a High-Stakes Mastermind Group for several reasons. Maybe you’re a solopreneur or an entrepreneur who wants to bounce ideas off of other professionals. Perhaps you want to be able to associate with others who experience the same professional, personal and social challenges and sacrifices that you do in your field. Or maybe you are looking to build your personal network of support and confidants.  Whatever your reason, you should do one thing once you’ve joined the group. You should be completely honest and allow yourself to be vulnerable.

Why would you want to show your true self, with all of your challenges and weaknesses to other people? Won’t they stop respecting you so much? The answer is no. You want to be completely honest and vulnerable with your fellow members, and especially your Mastermind group facilitator, because that is the only way that they can help you diagnose any issues and help you improve to become the very best person and professional that you can be. This is the safe place to be emotionally naked.

Think about it – if they don’t know what the problem is, how can they give the advice that you’ve joined the group for?

Remember each member is in the same position.  You may feel like they’re holding your emotional cards – but you’re holding theirs as well.

In the blog by William Butler, The Benefits of Being Vulnerable he writes:

Risking vulnerability allows you to be, or have:

  • deeper degree of honesty
  • greater degree of transparency
  • higher level of understanding
  • deeper relationships
  • honestly yourself
  • less defensive
  • less lonely than that of isolation
  • more accountable
  • more courageous
  • more sensitive and tenderhearted
  • truly human

Source: http://www.williambutler.ca/2013/09/power-vulnerable/

There’s something extremely freeing about being vulnerable and releasing the weight of your most stressful business decisions, confusing questions, and untried ideas. It humanizes all of us to let down our guards and be…well, human.

What may look like the weakest form of humanness is actually what takes the most strength – vulnerability.

In her TED Talk Brené Brown said, “Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.”

Your time is precious. Clearly, you’ve joined a Mastermind group to get something out of it. Get the most out of it by allowing yourself to be vulnerable – emotionally naked and unafraid. That’s how you can help others to help you.

 

 

Five Benefits of Being in a Group of Positive Thinkers

Positive Group Positive Benefits
There’s a famous quote:
Attitudes are contagious. Are yours worth catching?

It’s famous for a reason – because it’s true. You can pick up the attitudes of others, and be influenced by the moods of those around you – your family members, your colleagues, your bosses, and even the woman working at the checkout at the grocery store.  Make sure when you pick up and attitude it’s a positive one.

Positive Attitude

Think about it – someone’s can-do attitude about a difficult project will give you a more confident feeling about the work you’re about to take on, while the checkout lady’s crummy mood can put you in a bad mood as well. Studies show that even your health can be influenced by your attitude. Someone with a sunny, positive attitude, positive vibes, and a good outlook on life may very well enjoy better health than an eternal pessimist.

Think of an instance at work or an event at home that turned out the way you wanted it to. Now try to imagine your attitude at the time. In each case, your attitude was likely pretty positive. You can bet that that very attitude led you to make the choices that ended in your success. Conversely, negative attitudes defeat us, even before we begin.

Psychologists agree that in order to live a happy, engaged, and meaningful life, you have to think positively. Optimists see the bright side of things, and believe that changes can be made to improve a situation.

Connections

As a business person, someone in a leadership position, someone who has the power to influence others, or as an entrepreneur, you need to surround yourself with positive people. This becomes especially important when you are self-employed and don’t have traditional support from professional superiors within your company. When you make connections with people who are positive thinkers, these people become the ones who will help you on your path to success.

Where do you find these positive people, who have similar ambitions, aspirations for success, and beliefs that a positive outlook can change your trajectory in life? Look no further than a Mastermind group.

Support

These groups, who are full of people just like you – smart, strong, forward-thinking, open-minded, progressive and positive – are here to support you. Whereas naysayers might put down your ideas, your peers in the Mastermind group will be the ones to urge you to develop your ideas, explore your options and think outside the proverbial box. They are the ones who are excited about change, instead of resistant to it. Ultimately, a positive thinking Mastermind group will add value to your life.

Value

These people didn’t get to the top in their executive roles for no reason. The people in Mastermind groups got there because they typically have a different way of thinking than the average working person. Imagine if you had them act as each other’s allies, colleagues and collaborators?

In addition to influencing the way you approach your business (and ultimately, your life) Mastermind group members help each other solve problems, give opinions and help you see things from a different perspective, energize you to do your best and motivate you. They will challenge you to rise to the top (and stay there) and give you the momentum to reach your goals, whatever they are. They will improve your communication skills, introduce you to other people and to new ideas and methods you can apply to your company.

You Become Who You Associate With

Remember, you can’t always control the outcome. There will be times that you will fail. But you can control your attitude, which is the filter through which you see the world and a tool with which you make decisions. Choose a positive attitude by surrounding yourself with positive people, and watch your rate of success rise.

Remember that in order to be a high-stakes thinker, you need to surround yourself with like-minded people. If the people you surround yourself with are positive, confident and open-minded, you will start thinking that way too.

After all, you become who you associate with.