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Five Benefits of Being in a Group of Positive Thinkers

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There’s a famous quote:
Attitudes are contagious. Are yours worth catching?

It’s famous for a reason – because it’s true. You can pick up the attitudes of others, and be influenced by the moods of those around you – your family members, your colleagues, your bosses, and even the woman working at the checkout at the grocery store.  Make sure when you pick up and attitude it’s a positive one.

Positive Attitude

Think about it – someone’s can-do attitude about a difficult project will give you a more confident feeling about the work you’re about to take on, while the checkout lady’s crummy mood can put you in a bad mood as well. Studies show that even your health can be influenced by your attitude. Someone with a sunny, positive attitude, positive vibes, and a good outlook on life may very well enjoy better health than an eternal pessimist.

Think of an instance at work or an event at home that turned out the way you wanted it to. Now try to imagine your attitude at the time. In each case, your attitude was likely pretty positive. You can bet that that very attitude led you to make the choices that ended in your success. Conversely, negative attitudes defeat us, even before we begin.

Psychologists agree that in order to live a happy, engaged, and meaningful life, you have to think positively. Optimists see the bright side of things, and believe that changes can be made to improve a situation.


As a business person, someone in a leadership position, someone who has the power to influence others, or as an entrepreneur, you need to surround yourself with positive people. This becomes especially important when you are self-employed and don’t have traditional support from professional superiors within your company. When you make connections with people who are positive thinkers, these people become the ones who will help you on your path to success.

Where do you find these positive people, who have similar ambitions, aspirations for success, and beliefs that a positive outlook can change your trajectory in life? Look no further than a Mastermind group.


These groups, who are full of people just like you – smart, strong, forward-thinking, open-minded, progressive and positive – are here to support you. Whereas naysayers might put down your ideas, your peers in the Mastermind group will be the ones to urge you to develop your ideas, explore your options and think outside the proverbial box. They are the ones who are excited about change, instead of resistant to it. Ultimately, a positive thinking Mastermind group will add value to your life.


These people didn’t get to the top in their executive roles for no reason. The people in Mastermind groups got there because they typically have a different way of thinking than the average working person. Imagine if you had them act as each other’s allies, colleagues and collaborators?

In addition to influencing the way you approach your business (and ultimately, your life) Mastermind group members help each other solve problems, give opinions and help you see things from a different perspective, energize you to do your best and motivate you. They will challenge you to rise to the top (and stay there) and give you the momentum to reach your goals, whatever they are. They will improve your communication skills, introduce you to other people and to new ideas and methods you can apply to your company.

You Become Who You Associate With

Remember, you can’t always control the outcome. There will be times that you will fail. But you can control your attitude, which is the filter through which you see the world and a tool with which you make decisions. Choose a positive attitude by surrounding yourself with positive people, and watch your rate of success rise.

Remember that in order to be a high-stakes thinker, you need to surround yourself with like-minded people. If the people you surround yourself with are positive, confident and open-minded, you will start thinking that way too.

After all, you become who you associate with.


The Truth About Diagrams

Let’s be realistic, if you were to get a text from your mother and she sent a little heart to you in the text, you would know that she loves you. But you wouldn’t really feel the love as much as if she verbally told you.  There’s no interaction. It’s just a diagram.

If your orthodontist gave you a graph of your kid’s two-year course of braces without talking you through it you’d get an mental image but no real assurance of how the process would go, and no way to ask questions.  Still no interaction. It’s just a diagram.

Diagraming your business or personal goal plan is no different.  Having it on paper – essential.  No doubt about it. You’d know what it represented, but it’s not the same as if somebody actually talked you through it, guided you and coached you through it.

Mastermind groups provides the coaching and the feedback.  Not homogenized and stagnant like what typically happens with one to one.  Living, breathing, experience and support from a group that has your back. Real interaction. Diagrams are great, and you wouldn’t do without it, it just doesn’t have the same impact as your mastermind group talking with you coaching you supporting, offering tools and resources and asking Socratic questions to ensure you clarify your thinking.

Find out what’s available to you.

Even though “a picture is worth a thousand words”, a picture can’t say a thousand words.

What’s more valuable to you?

“The next best thing to being wise oneself is to live in a circle of those who are.”

C.S. Lewis, author and essayist.


11 People Reveal the Best Business Books to Fuel Your Brain – and the Importance of Reading

Me with a few of my favorite business books
Me with a few of my favorite business books

There are many benefits to being a solopreneur. Being your own boss can be very rewarding. In addition to making your own hours and knowing that all the success is yours alone, you can make important decisions and focus on what you believe to be the business and your personal priorities.

But one thing that’s missing in solopreneur venture is someone to bounce ideas off of. Working on your own venture can be great – but let’s face it, a little bit of outside insight and experience never hurt anyone. And one great way to get that is by reading business books.

I reached out to folks in my professional community and asked them to name their favorite books.  It was really great to get their input and I truly appreciate their participation.  Here’s what they said:

Tracy: Tony Robbins and Wayne Dyer – “Both authors are amazing at getting you to move forward.”

Sande: Books by Patrick Lencioni “Each book addresses some function of business and he weaves it in story form along with info and charts in the books and his website.”

Wale:  The 100 Most Influential Books Ever Written: The History of Thought from Ancient Times to Today (1998) is a book of intellectual history written by Martin Seymour-Smith (1928–1998), a British poet, critic, and biographer.

Mary Dee:  Emotional Intelligence, Why it can matter more than IQ by Daniel Goldman. “Goldman shows the factors at work when people of high IQ flounder and those of modest IQ do surprisingly well.”  Emotional Intelligence includes self-awareness and impulse control, persistence, zeal and self-motivation, empathy and social deftness. Firm believer that anyone who works on refining or just finding their emotional intelligence they will be successful in life.

Now, Discover Your Strengths by Marcus Buckingham and Donald O. Clifton, Ph. D:  “This describes a revolutionary program that shows you how to develop your unique talents and strengths – and those people you manage.”

Crucial Conversations -Tools For Talking When Stakes are High by Patterson, Grenny, McMillan, Switzler.  “Helps you communicate when the stakes are high, helps transform anger and hurt feelings into powerful dialogue.”

The Leadership Challenge by Kouzes and Posner: research based with enduring wisdom and practical insights that are needed for success as a leader in challenging times.

Encouraging the Heart by Kouzes and Posner.  “This is my favorite in learning how to positively reward and recognize others in your organization.”

Laurie:  Drive by Daniel Pink. “He talks about incentive programs and how they don’t work — recommends that it’s Autonomy, Mastery, and Purpose that results in ongoing behavior. And there are YouTube videos where you can get the cliff notes.

Pause: 52 Ways to Shift Any Outcome in Less Than a Minute, Jennifer Sellers, et al. “This one is about Mindfulness and has a matching card deck. You shuffle the cards, then look up the card in the book for more info, plus an action and affirmation. Great for when things are stuck.”

Ryan:  J.K. Lasser’s Your Income Tax

Bill:   Anything You Want by Derek Sivers

Roseline Good to Great by Jim Collins,

The Go Giver by Bob Burg and John David Mann,

The E-Myth, The New Relationship Marketing by Mari Smith

My faves:, (Lynn, & Cindy agreed!) Malcolm Gladwell:  Blink, Outliers, The Tipping Point and David and Goliath and What the Dog Saw.

Reading is an important part of business for everyone. No matter who you are, from the unpaid summer intern at the bottom of the totem pole to the CEO, it’s important to read the latest books in your industry. Every industry changes, and books allow you to keep up on the new theories and practices out there. Books also allow you to learn from the experiences and mistakes of others. That’s why, when you work alone, it’s even more important to keep up on your reading. You’ll get different insights from experts and authors, and get new ideas for methods and even new ideologies from others that you may not have considered before.

In business and in life, it never works to live in a bubble. Open your mind to new ideas, experiences and others’ thoughts – you never know what it might change.

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The Ultimate Success Plan – Masterminding with Confidants

Senior Lady Giving an idea to her Colleagues
Mastermind member sharing an idea to her group

The Ultimate Success Plan – Masterminding with Confidants

The journey to the top of your game, no matter what industry you’re in, can be a very lonely one, especially if you are a solopreneur or an entrepreneur. Sometimes, it will seem like nobody really understands you, from the professional challenges you face to the personal and social sacrifices that are sometimes involved with such a heavy time commitment as running your own business.

So as you climb the ladder, it’s exceptionally important to build your personal network of support and confidants.  “Confidants”.  Interesting word, right?  Webster’s Dictionary describes “confidant” as “one to whom secrets are confided”.  I can tell you from my years of Mastermind experience that one of the toughest issues that holds people back from progress is not having anyone to talk to.  And I mean really talk to.

Confidants can help you in a number of ways. People that you meet in High Stakes Mastermind groups, for example, understand what challenges you’re facing, because they’re in the same positions and know those challenges to be true. Over time relationships and trust builds, which allow for the sharing of ideas, solutions and strategies. Confidants willingly share advice with you that worked in similar situations for them.

Confidants are important for every business person, but are even more important when you’re self-employed. This is because for much of the time, you’re likely working independently, or with your staff, without the aid of a corporate headquarters. Often, this means that you have no peers to bounce ideas for solutions and strategies off of. Those you are working with are often not on the same level.

Mastermind group members are often in other lines of work, and they can become true confidants with nothing to gain from your industry secrets.

One final promise for having confidants in a Mastermind group: that it’s an especially good idea to have confidants who are as successful and trained as you are, or even more so, to discuss ideas and strategies with – and to help you discover solutions to problems unique to your business.

We know confidentiality is so important our members sign a promissory agreement. But fear not, you’ll still see the evidence of it – in their success.


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Integrity-a Quality Above the Crowd

Personal Integrity
To rise above the crowd you must demonstrate personal integrity.

At a networking luncheon we were asked to go around the table and do self-introductions. As part of our opening we were supposed to pick from a list of qualities, printed on a card, and discuss which one of them applied most to us. It was a great list and hard to make a decision.

I chose “live authentically”. I told the group that the reason that quality is so important to me is living authentically, and demonstrating integrity – in what I say, and what I do, is the cornerstone of who I am, and it is also crucial to what High Stakes Mastermind groups is all about.

High Stakes Mastermind groups does not function successfully unless every member is true and honest and committed to the success of everyone in the group – not just themselves. Honesty is extremely important to everything we stand for, and in the way we conduct ourselves both within the meetings and on the outside.

I said that comment at the networking luncheon because even in that networking group there are those individuals, and in fact one in particular I’m thinking of, who do not “walk the talk”. They make a good show of it, but I have several first-hand experiences where this was disappointingly not the case of “living authentically”, being truthful and demonstrating integrity.

I had a conversation with one of the people who was with me at the luncheon table, and I asked her opinion of what I said in my self-introduction.  I wasn’t ashamed in any way of what I said, just a little concerned that maybe my comments took the others by surprise.

But she said the most wonderful thing. She said if they were taken by surprise, at all, it was probably because they were thinking, “Wow, she went there. She was honest enough to say what she was really thinking.”

That in, and of itself, is what truth, personal integrity and living authentically is all about.
Where did I get the strength to do that? I, who was so shy as a kid I’d eat my bread dry before having the guts to ask, “Please pass the butter.”? I got the strength from forming and facilitating High Stakes Mastermind groups. Even as the facilitator, and not an active participant, the power of the groups gives me that kind of strength. And it is giving that strength to its members; the stories that my members have told me from the things they have been able to achieve, the business decisions they’ve made, even the partnership’s they’ve ended because of truth, integrity, living authentically and being served by the power of the Mastermind group.

If you’re willing to do your part, it will take you to the next level – the level that you need to achieve your goals. Goal achievers rise above the crowd, and they start by demonstrating integrity.